Is there a positive side to regret?

Regrets, yes regrets! I believe we all have made mistakes in the past and we regret our actions and the things we said. We wish we could turn back the hands of time and do things differently.

Most times we blame people for our mistakes, we never take responsibility for our actions and so we live in bitterness blaming others for our mistakes. 

I believe there is a reason for everything that has happened in our lives. We may not understand everything but its for a reason. Yes, it could be a mistake but there is a lesson in every mistake which makes us better. Sometimes, we learn the hard way, it costs us something, we cry and even wish death, we ask questions and most times, we never get answers, we regret the essence of life and we live in regret.

What is the essence of living in regret when you can learn a lesson from every mistake and move on? Its natural to feel bad when certain things happen or when we do certain things. We feel the sense of guilt but in everything that happens, there is something to learn. Like the saying goes, we start to die when we stop learning.

I believe everything we have been through even the mistakes have made us who we are. I think the best thing in life is not to regret but learn from the experience.

Dr Myles - A Kingdom Legend

Dr Myles Munroe was different things to different people. To some he was a Mentor, a Role Model, a Leader, a Voice, a Life Coach, a Teacher, a Government Consultant, a Minister of the gospel.  To me, he was a Blessing.

He was full of life and passionate about the gospel of Christ, leadership, purpose, vision, transforming society and maximizing our potentials.

I remember his interview on The 700 Club where he said "that richest place on earth is the cemetry because its filled with businesses that never opened,  awesome companies that never got started, inventions never used, poetry never read, books that were never written, paintings no one has ever seen, songs never heard, great and powerful women who died as prostitutes, great men who died as alcoholics and drug addicts. He stressed that it is better to die empty irrespective of your age and that is the goal of life, to die empty.
He said that the greatest act of service to humanity is to deliver what you came to deliver".

I think Dr Myles disappointed the grave, he died empty. With his numerous books, motivational messages, seminars on leadership, publications etc. His greatest statement of dying is, it is finished. He finished his race and kept the faith.  It seems he still had alot to do but he died fulfilling his purpose. The greatest tragedy is not death but a life without a purpose because purpose give meaning to existence according to Dr Myles. 

I'm glad he found and lived his purpose. His goal in life was for you and i to die empty. So let's on work on dying empty, let us rob the grave, let us fulfill our purpose.

Thank you Dr Myles for being an Inspiration and a Blessing.

 Rest in Peace.

Who owns the breast? The man or the child?

This is an interesting topic, isn't it? Don't act like you don't know what I'm talking about. I know the guys understand it better because they always have this challenge with their children. Its like they are always fighting for their right, lol. Hope i'm talking to married people but if you are unmarried, then i don't know what you are doing with or around those breasts, maybe you are surveying........ wink!

So i ask, who owns the C of O of the breast. Yes, the certificate of ownership. There have been alot of arguments on this issue.

I was at the mall over the weekend and  overhead some guys arguing about this. It was a heated argument, one of them was even making reference to the bible and it got my attention. Infact, those guys made my day because i couldn't help but laugh my heart out. So these breasts are important  to men, hmmm! I pondered  on it for a while and decided to throw it back at you. Don't ask me what i think about it because i do not know.

So i ask again, who owns the C of O of the breast? The man or the child? Talk your own.

Would you date your sister's or brother's ex?

I was listening to a program on radio and this question was asked. I can imagine how complex this may sound to some people. Well, as complex as it sounds in my ears, its actually not a big deal to some people while to others, its a big deal.

Infact, it is a taboo to some people.

What if your sister or brother has moved on and even thinks its okay for you to date his/her ex, would you date the person? 

Why do you think its okay or not. Talk your own.

The confession

I came across this article and decided to share.

John Cozart: Freedom from Pornography

The first time I looked at pornography,” remembers John Cozart, “it was exciting but yet I felt like I was doing something wrong. Something that I was not supposed to be doing. It was difficult to put it down. It was difficult to walk away from it. The addiction began to take root.”

John Cozart was a young boy when he first saw pornographic magazines at a friend’s house. It wasn’t long before he had his own stack of magazines and a secret addiction.

“So there was a lot of sneaking around. A lot of secrecy. A cycle of self-gratification. looking at the magazines. It continued throughout my teenage years.”

He married Joy at nineteen, and hoped his addiction was over. It wasn’t. And the internet made it easy to be discreet at home.”

“There was this euphoric feeling that just swept through me and it took me to another place. Some of the stuff that was popping up, it was a lot more graphic more sexually explicit than what I was exposed to even as a teenager, than the magazines that I had looked at. I had this feeling like, ‘Wow, here we go again. This thing’s followed me into my marriage.’ I found myself retreating to my office and spending more and more time looking at pornography on the computer, and once again keeping it a secret from my wife.”

John became a Christian in his twenties but still felt powerless to overcome his porn addiction.

“Because of the guilt, because of the shame I began to withdraw from the Lord, and looking back there was probably a withdrawal from my wife even early on. And the guilt was telling me that I was doing something wrong, and the shame was telling me that I was wrong, that there was something wrong with me.”

His secret was revealed when Joy walked into his office. She was shocked to see pictures of naked women on his computer screen.

“It was almost like I had just put a knife into her. She had that look in her face, in her eyes like, ‘You’ve just betrayed me, you’ve just… How could you? After all that we’ve been through.’”

“The trust was gone. Everything that we had built over the years of our marriage was gone. There was nothing I could say. My words meant nothing. My apology meant nothing. ‘I’m sorry’ meant nothing.”

Hope finally arrived when a friend gave John a CD called Somebody’s Daughter - A Journey to Freedom from Pornography.

“I just wanted to be free. I wanted to be pure. I was a Christian and I wanted to get back that intimacy that I had early on as a new Christian, as a new believer. I remember the first day that I began to listen to that CD. I felt like for the very first time that there was hope. It was like somebody was saying to me, ‘I know where you’re at. I know what you’ve gone through. I know what you’re going through now.’ And they were telling me that, ‘You can get through this.’ And I felt like at that particular point God was answering my prayer.”

John took the first steps on his journey toward freedom from pornography.

“It really started with me just being honest and being vulnerable and saying, ‘This is where I’m at.’ The thing about sexual sin is it thrives in secrecy, in darkness. That’s where it lives. Once I began to verbalize my addiction, the power began to subside and it started to diminish almost over night.”

“The intimacy that I once had with God has returned. There’s a passage of scripture, Psalm 51 that says, ‘Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation…’ and being free that joy has been restored. My wife and I will be celebrating thirty years of marriage, and I’m proud of that I really am. Man, she is the love of my life.”

John runs Unshackled Ministries. He is devoted to help men find freedom from pornography addiction, just as he did.

What a story. You too can decide to let go of that bad habit. Its all about determination.

Source: The 700 Club

What bad habits have caused

 I listen to inspiration Fm every sunday morning. So this past Sunday, I actually woke up late and as i turned on my radio, guess what  the speaker was talking about? Habits. Yea! Habits. It hit real hard because I've got some bad habits that I'm really working on. So I thought it would be nice to share this.

I know we all have some good and bad habits. It could be sexual, eating, work, school, sleep, social, healthy habits etc Most of us have lost friends,jobs, loved ones, opportunities, because of some bad habits. We are so addicted to these bad habits that we are enslaved by them. They nullify our intentions. Sometimes, we make plans on the things we want to achieve but these plans never come to pass because we couldn't let go of a bad habit.

Back in school, i had always wanted to study medicine. I was obsessed with the thought of being called a doctor. So i enrolled for a remedial programme because Jamb had dealt with me a couple of times so the thought of writing it again never crossed my mind. I studied well but along the line, something did not feel right. I started associating with the wrong people, inculcated some terrible habits. I became a night crawler, i started keeping late nights and drinking without limit. I couldn't stay without a smoke, aha! My attention was derailed and i lost out. I ended up studying psychology.

Well, enough of the bad habits, they have been dealt with. I have some good habits too. I read alot of motivational books and i make conscious effort to smile especially when there is every reason to cry.

I'm  sure you have your own story. Whats that bad habit of yours? Talk your own.